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Post by Owly82 » Tue Sep 07, pm. Post by Need help » Wed Mar 16, pm. What does the future hold 14 posts 1 2 Next. Dating a sex offender. I have been with my partner offender just over a year now. He told me after our first two dates that he was on the sex offenders register for downloading indecent images of children.
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Prior to this we had dating 2 years before but he ended it sex I now know he had been told that he was going to be on the register for 10 years instead of the 5 that he had dating been told. For me, the context within which his rules took place matters alot. His wife was cheating on him for 2 years, his brother died at the same time and he developed an addiction to pornography.
Over a period of about 2 months he downloaded a low number of images of children. He was convicted a long time after the offence and had not done anything since. Sex it caught up with him he had 50 percent custody and dating girlfriend and had not done anything since the offence.
Dear Concerned Girlfriend,
He was given a 2 year suspended sentence which is now complete. He has no contact with my two children whatsoever and does not stay overnight in my home. We get to see each other twice offender week and I get to stay at his home about twice a month because my children don't see their father very often, particularly since covid when he has been completely unreliable. My partner has unsupervised contact with his two children and is currently back at family court to sex the amount of time he has with his children as it was meant to progress to overnights and a holiday but his ex has refused.
I recently told my close family members rules details of his conviction because I wanted them to understand why our relationship is moving so slowly and why he finds it hard to let his guard down to me because his previous girlfriend could not cope with the repercussions of taking the steps to move the relationship forwards talking to rules services etc. Her ex husband said he would tell all her friends and she couldn't face that. My family, my father and his wife in particular, are extremely angry with me.
My father has got everyone in my close family to panic about losing their jobs should they ever meet my partner. My father has told me I have to decide between my partner think, coaxial hookup and them and has told me I'm not to tell anyone else. I am extremely alone and upset. I'm writing here to get solid advice on whether my job or anyone's job is put at risk by association. I'm a dance teacher and I teach children and adults.
My work is outside of the home. I also want to know what lies in store should we self refer to social services when he feels ready to progress the relationship.
He isn't ready and wants to make progress on his family court case first but I am finding it very hard to have such a part time relationship. I want to minimise the impact on my children but I'm willing to do anything to safeguard them other than take the easy option of ending the relationship. I am also afraid of what my ex will do when he is told as he was abusive and continues to try and control me. Dating do have an injunction in place but had it altered to try and facilitate a relationship between him and his article source for their sake.
Please give me click hope that offender is a way forward in all this. I do not condone my partners crime but I do feel he has been punished enough and I can't get on board with seeing all sex offenders as the same when the level of offence is so different between cases.
Re: Dating a sex offender. What does the future hold Post by Bossman » Sat Aug offender, am I can only imagine how tormented you must feel, the for in which your family have not coped with your choice just compounding any insecurities you may have.
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I cant give you any actual answers however I can say, I am in agreement with what you say about the register holding all to the with dating when unemployed congratulate level regardless of the actual crime. I https://search-by-image.info/dating-nigerian-ladies.php think your standing at work will alter, the DBS check is on you not your partner.
However you may find that once people know then some will be as you father and refuse to associate with you in both work and social life. Which could impact on your ability to make a living.
Your ex could when they find out go either way. From what you have said I would imagine him to try to gain a residence order and possibly even sex you out of your children's lives. I am not saying he will succeed. I appreciate I have probably not said anything you don't all ready know, I just sought to support you on your journey. I hope my words have helped.
I hope that my exes for rubbishness as a parent would go against him in that respect but I do worry about the dating of any court proceedings, I just don't have the money. I hate that he has parental responsibility without doind a thing other than let the children down repeatedly.
Would my places of work need to be informed of my relationship? It doesn't seem fair to punish me and loose my living when my work is completely seperate to my home life. I feel that the law should protect people from this attitude of guilt by association.
What does the future https://search-by-image.info/gay-dating-perth.php Post by Bossman » Sat Aug 28, am You are welcome, I am not sure if its something we need to legally do, I don't think so offender it's not your conviction.
I would say your choice. However some employers may be supportive whilst others not. Sex on the size of employer some could try and use it against you. I agree we should be allowed to make our own decisions with out fear of reprisals.
Some people don't see this kind of offence as anything other than disgusting. Which makes it difficult for those of us who identify with the person and not the crime.
You are in a very difficult position, I feel for you, you can get opinions but the choice is yours and not an easy one. To be totally honest I have no idea about what happens when they come off the register it may stay with them the rest of their lives. One step at a time us all you can take, take rules. What does the future hold Post by Owly82 » Fri Sep 03, pm Thank you, this is really helpful.
I dont know if that makes a difference. I do know that my partner stayed for 10 days at his mother's house not long after his conviction. She was a headteacher and got fired as a result. They had to apologise and offer her job back but the damage was done and she took the compensation payout instead. I guess I'm worried that my ex would take it upon himself to tell people I work for out of for once he is informed should we decided to self refer in order to move the relationship forwards.
I know my father holds the opinion that I've put my whole families jobs at for which is ridiculous as they have never even met him and I'm happy for it to stay that way. I'm really unsure about informing employers whilst my partner and I have not decided to take the next step. If they are not lawfully required to know, I'm concerned I would lose work simply because if the nature of the crime and personal objections or fears of guilt by association?
At the same time I can see how being proactive would demonstrate my willingness to safeguard both my children rules those that I work with. Click to see more am in a similar situation. Did social believe for partner was not seeing your children? Did they leave you alone? Did they ever tell you, you'd loose the children if you didn't cut all ties?
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