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Been online dating on and off for six months. No dates in last three months due to massively raising my standards. Was chatting to a bloke on online app who seems exactly my type. Very smart, articulate etc. Gave him my number and said he could text me next day, He didn't but then actually called me the following day - took me completely by surprise as most ppl text. We actually had a lovely, 1. We discussed this Thursday this dating kelly monaco last Sunday. I texted him online the Tuesday following the phone call dating confirmed Thursday was fine for me childcare wise.

He texted back on Wednesday saying that would be great and that he was having long days v busy job. So I texted the following day saying he should text me nearer time to make a plan. Silence since then. So is this online dating disappearing after secured the ego stroke of a date agreement or just being a bloke as in, we've made a plan, no need to talk until nearer the time? I guess the fact he didn't text me first to confirm post call he'd also said he'd send a couple of back up suggestions through and the fact he hasn't replied to my last text is making me think he's lost act.

It's obviously not the end of the world. It's just online dating is bloody annoying and I wish he'd just cancel if he'd changed his mind.

We're both in thirties - not kids! And yes I know I could just ask him. But I dammed if I'm chasing him. Would like to know whether to cancel sitter etc. Fuck's sake. What's wrong with me?

Views please: Online dating disappearing act or typical bloke behaviour?

Why do I even care. I would tell me to text him and cancel. Problem is he's the first guy clever enough to catch my interest in ages. Ring him off guard like he did to you and have some good conversation like you described in the first telephone call he made to you. Most people speak to several people at a time on dating sites so chances are someone is intriguing him a bit more at the moment but that's not to say that he's online interested in you I just think if you liked this web page don't give up yet.

Obviously if he doesn't pick up or call you back within a day don't bother again xx good luck! Good luck! StrawberryJelly00 - ha. I actually hate the phone We spoke for a hour and a half - really unusable for me to speak on the phone longer than five minutes unless it's work.

I specifically asked him to text me to make a plan. If he doesn't do online by Wednesday eve I shall cancel sitter. She won't mind overmuch. Really not sure why I bother dating. Don't need a man, they are mostly more trouble then they are worth, And dull. SingSongSing - yup, I'm funny. I can make a roomful laugh out loud. Yeah, it will be his loss. The uncertainty and game playing drive me bats I hate online dating for this! Had one man hound me with messages I agreed to meet up and he cancelled on the day never to hear from him again.

My best bet is he is chickening out and nothing to do with you what so ever. Give him more time but if nothing the night before then cancel the sitter, block him and shout next!!!!

Log in to update your disappearing preferences. He is aware I will have booked a sitter as I am a widowed sites 40s dating for. And we have made an arrangement to meet.

Therefore he does owe me dating common courtesy of cancelling if that is his intention. I assume you hadn't made firm arrangements you needed to cancel with the nutters on your whatsapp My last text asked him to contact me 'nearer the time' to act a plan which would be tonight or tomorrow latest, as we are due to meet Thursday. It's fine, I'm not hung up on a guy I never met, I'm just baffled by the long phone call, the insistence he'd like to go out and then the disappearing act, why bother? Waste of time. Never mind. Such is life.

This is so bloody annoying!

Seems to happen a lot Probably both Binxee. I'll probably send him a text on Thursday reminding him that as a widowed parent I booked childcare and that his disappearance is therefore particularly rude. He is probably talking to other women and someone else has caught his interest more or not entirely wanting to meet.

If his plans for that falls through you may then hear from him. My DP was like this a little- texting did not work with him, replies would be dating and stilted, if they arrived at all! But get him on the phone and we would chat for hours. I wouldn't write him off at all. If you know his rough working hours then give him a call, checking you're still on.

A connection is hard to find. We are now 3 years down the line by the way. He still hates disappearing, but makes more effort as he knows it pisses me off. Phone him if you want to know. Or just cancel the sitter if you're already not going to get safe dating verified it either way because you already feel slighted.

It's not chasing him, it's taking his lead. Onemansoapopera - we'll I'm meeting a friend early in the eve anyway now so sitter will not be wasted. But he doesn't know that. I wouldn't text him.

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There was nothing stopping him from texting you back when you had text him so its up to him now. He's either started talking to someone else or he's chickened out of meeting you, but either way, it is rude to give you mixed messages especially as you're widowed and need to sort childcare.

No I would text him actually to remind him at least- that will give you answer he will either make firm plans by getting back to you usually immediately or not respond which says he is not interested really. Why fret over this, you are both adults anyway.

Honestly the second guessing in modern dating is relentless! GameChanger01 I know it's act. Makes me sad. I wasn't meant to be in this position, husband died four years sims free for pc dating. I'm only 37 so don't fancy a dating alone but frankly act dating is a joke, meh. I have a great job, friends, kids, house. A man is basically superfluous anyway! If you think a man would be superfluous, maybe its not disappearing for you to be dating, in the nicest possible way.

I can't think of anyone who would want to be thought of as 'spare', male or female. For what its worth I hope you do have a date and I hope its ace. Onemansoapopera well it is society that programs us to date.

Large scale studies show women are happier without men, long term. Most men can't cope with not being needed and Disappearing don't need one. I really think dating behaviour is long overdue an upward paradigm shift. OP, you deserve better, where has good manners and treating people with a basic level of respect gone? Please create an account or log in to access all these features. Sharing posts outside of Mumsnet does not disclose your username. Add post Watch this thread Save thread.

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