Brotherman you grown, date whoever you like. When I see patterns it makes me curious about how decisions are influenced by societal structures influenced by power invested in maintaining white. Here we are in the era of blackgirlmagic and learn more here. Black girl are winning.
Or Korryn Gaines.
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Or Tiarah Poyau. Or Shaqueenia Hanna. We call them brilliant, highlight their leadership, encourage their natural beauty, mock white women for appropriating their style. Because love is love. This dating really a question about identity. When someone ascribes to a value system, claims a particular label, in what ways should we expect evidence of that identity to show up in their life?
Philanthropists give. Black is diverse enough for that to manifest in lots of different ways, but it looks like something. As a lifestyle choice who you chose white spend intimate time with is a powerful statement about what dating site one night stand deem valuable.
I dated a white girl once. Like went on a date with. We were both in grad school in Atlanta. I was 24 years old. She was from Greece. All the guys in the program thought was she gorgeous. I was like oh yeah? And my ego asked her out. We saw a movie, but I felt awkward so that was the end of us. The basic premise is: if I had the experience of feeling shame, then there must be some brothers that feel pride when they publicly date white women. I know my feelings of shame have been shaped by my upbringing, the African-centered school I attended, my values about family, my perceived obligations to the Black community, and my sociopolitical analysis.
It would only make sense that their dating comes from somewhere too. Love chooses you, not the other way around.
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What does my theory say about Harry Belafonte? Frederick Douglass? Frantz Fanon? Cheikh Anta Diop? Amiri Baraka? I may have my own personal discomfort about the image of Nate Parker having a long grueling day conjuring the suffering and resistance of our ancestors and going home to be comforted by his wife.
Girl biology and phenotype of Black is one thing, but the active identity of Blackness should be connected to tangible outcomes.
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