Love AIBU? Follow us on WhatsApp to be notified about trending threads. Or even just said after 3 years that they wanted to marry you and were intending to get engaged soon. Would you wait a bit longer or leave? Assuming the partner is not 21 or something incredibly young. Ask them. You're allowed to these days. Proposal else would lesbian couples get married, all wait until the next leap year? Click here would be incredibly surprised dating a proposal before three years, I see no reason to rush these things.
As they say, marry in haste, repent at leisure. Well, I'm not really one for "proposals' as such. I think the decision to get married should come after and of thought and discussion.
So, have you had conversations about marriage? About what it means to you? About how important it is to each of you? About whether you want to be married before having kids, if this is relevant to your case?
What would you do if your partner hadn't proposed after nearly 3 years
Are you on the same wave-length? Do you have kids together? That would be the only reason I'd want to "rush" a marriage proposal - for the security. Otherwise, I really wouldn't be fussed after just 3 years.
Putting pressure on will just suck the joy out of the relationship. There's really no need to push for a ring on your finger. Just enjoy things as they are. Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
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Yes I just wondered if someone didn't know if they wanted to marry you after 3 years, do you think they ever would? Why do they need to wait for years longer? My husband and I were together for 8 years before we got engaged and subsequently married a few years later We weren't young, both married before. Life, cost, kids, house move and other commitments got in the way. Plus I wanted a really nice ring It all depends on your 'cut off date' in your head so to speak and to communicate your expectations with him fully so he knows what the outcome would be if he doesn't meet it.
I was with my DH 14 years before we got married and 12 years before he proposed. DH asked me to marry him about 15 months into our relationship, and we married about 2 years after this. We both talked early on about marriage though, and both understood it was where we expected things to go. Honestly, after 3 years? I'd have a serious conversation about it.
If it's important to you but not to them, then I'd seriously consider walking away. It'd depend on your situation: how old you both are, if you have been see more before, what your plans are for the future, if this web page want children etc. Wouldn't be thrilled if he'd shown no interest whatsoever proposal the prospect. Do you know his thoughts on the matter? My in-laws waited 25 years before they got married.
I would be concerned that they might never know. If he wanted actively to get married he would have asked by now. I absolutely adored my boyfriend, was desperate to marry him - and he was just very relaxed about the whole thing. He simply wasn't ready for years and years - we lived together from 1 year into our relationship but he didn't want to go any further.
He never said he was against marriage or that he wouldn't marry me - it just wasn't what he wanted at that point. I ummed for ahhed about what to do and there was no way I would propose - to be honest years felt a bit strange and I was worried he might say "no"! I decided that I loved him so much and wanted to be with him so much that I would rather stay and be with him than say "if you don't marry me I'm off".
We got married 6 months later - once he'd made his mind up there was no need wait any longer apparently - and we have now been very happily married for more than 14 years. I understand your frustration and how hurtful it can feel when your boyfriend doesn't seem to more dating sites for shy people are to dating - but I suppose it's the same as when a man isn't so keen on children - you have to decide which is more important to you - getting married or being together?
We bought a house after 3 years and were engaged a year later. DH has said since he wishes he had proposed at the same time we bought the house as we've struggled to have a baby and waited to ttc until we got married. But you never know what is going to happen in life. I always knew we were both committed, so 4 years for engagement didn't make me years about whether he was suddenly going to leave.
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