Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, dating. I've been dating a lovely man for about 6 months now. Whenever we see each other we have a really good time, however I'm feeling a bit unsettled. We seem to be averaging a date every weeks. We are in constant daily contact and do have the odd phone call in between but I'm getting a bit frustrated as we can only seem to align calendars every weeks.
He sees his kids a lot, which is a big green flag, but I'm finding it single and frankly a bit boring in keeping up the communication for weeks in between dates. I have said that I'd like to see each other once a week which he's agreed to but due to school holidays it's not happened yet. How often does he see his kids then? Is he doing the parenting on his own or does his ex have their DC some of the time? If the latter, what's the split of time?
If he's a single dad then there is no one else to take his kids unless he arranges childcare, so what do you expect him to do? Or is he just a 'dad' and kids are actually going to their mother some of the time? This is how dating this man is. It's up to you whether you want to continue like this. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. Op says he sees his kids a lot. I am a single mum and can only meet up with my bf every weeks. Also does he work? Have hobbies? OP I could have written this post myself! Except I've only speed dating boulder co seeing the guy 3 months, I've only seen him in person once every 3 weeks since we met at the start of June.
I too am beginning to feel a little unsettled, as I really like him and am beginning to dating I want more father with him. He had planned weekends away with either kids or mates throughout the summer before we met. I am going to see how things go after the single holidays, but at this stage I am worried about beginning to fall for a man who I know in reality I won't be able to see as frequently as I would like going forward.
I'd give it till term time and things settle to judge single he's made a change. I'm sure dating on day time availability I work evenings this is what dating me would be like for the single dad should I ever date one, on account of being the resident parent and working erratic shift patterns but if he doesn't have any of those issues I'd be a bit suspicious.
Part of how we even met in the first place was that we have the same weekend schedule and one child-free weeknight that coincides. Without that, I don't think our relationship could have progressed. We have built up to eow together plus one or two evening dates in between, so an average of one or two dates a week. It's difficult because we only have that one weeknight where we're both free, but sometimes one of us wants to use it to see friends. This is a great relationship, and I would rather work around our kids and schedules than not have him in my life.
It's not easy though. My life would single much simpler and less hectic if I were single, but I think we're worth the effort until our DC are older and it becomes a bit easier. The fact that he puts his DC first is a big deal and one of the qualities click at this page drew me to him in the first place. Is there a way to align your schedules to get that weekly date? I don't think it's an unreasonable expectation if your commitments allow it. Why does it matter what single dads are like, unless you're planning on dating a series of father It only matters what this man is offering you, and whether that's matching up to what you're looking for.
And it isn't. I was in other end of the same boat, man dating a woman who worked shifts and was a single parent, and dating was pretty much as you describe, pretty boring lots of waiting for her free time, sorry, but sounds a bit par for the course really. He has two kids from different mums and their time with him overlaps. I often have a day midweek and weekends free and he has his kids at the weekend. Father time can be relatively flexible so dating sticking point tends to be his availability. I'd love to spend a weekend dating website him but it tends to be midweek, and we can both be tired which isn't great.
In all honesty it did cross my mind that he wasn't single early on but he often messages, and calls and we've had a few nights away. He's quite open about his life etc.
Hopefully things will improve after school holidays. I know his kids come first but I do need more than this which I've said to him. ForgottenWhyImHere yes aligning schedules may work out better. We have had the odd time where I've been away or had something on but I'll see if we can work that out.
Dating a single dad. Is this what it's like?
I don't think there's a right or wrong here really. This is obviously just how his schedule works, and he's trying to slot you in father he can. For me, I'd be put off. I'd have a lot of respect for the guy for spending time with his kids but, in regards to a relationship, I just couldn't make it work as it's basically long-distance.
I'm a leak mirandahmarievip onlyfans weeks out of a relationship which ended partly because of our schedules not aligning. My ex has his son a minimum of 4 times a week which included every father giving him 3 evenings per week free in which he has to fit in his hobbies, friends, down single and me. I have older children so they didn't affect my schedule but my work did as I sometimes had evening meetings which often fell on the nights my ex was free so we only saw each other 1 evening per week which isn't enough to sustain a relationship.
I didn't see his son much as he didn't want him to get too attached to me. It made things very difficult and meant we never had a weekend together about twice a year we would get a weekend day together but only 1 day as the next day he had to have his son.
I see him having his son loads as a green flag and I love how hands on he is but his situation doesn't lend itself to a relationship. When I'm ready for a relationship in the future I'll be looking for someone with older children like me. Two kids with two different women. So if he has each kid EOW that's pretty much every weekend? Good for him that he's spending time with his kids but you probably want to sit down and have a long hard think about what life with this guy looks like for you and your kids before you invest more.
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