Dear Amy: For the past year, Dating have been dating a man who is separated from his wife.
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They separated shortly before we started dating, and both want a divorce. He loves his two children 11 and 13 very much, but does fairly openly regret having children with her. He and I currently live separated — I know we rushed this, man there separated various factors he is still paying the mortgage on his house, and all expenses. Nor do I really want to interact with her. I am advice, and very much want to have a man especially with him.
He also echoes this and says he wants the same thing. Because he is living with and sharing expenses with someone he also loves, he has no incentive to initiate the emotionally, legally, and financially challenging process of dissolving his marriage.
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What a relief for him! He is pathologically passive, paralyzed, or both. Yes — his choice to cohabit with you could dating make a divorce tougher for him.
Quite simply, he should not be doing it. In addition to every other negative factor, his children will feel quite betrayed when they find out.
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And they will find out. And you should ask him to stay with a friend or family member until he can get things sorted out. You might also consider the reality of having a child with someone who regrets having the children he already has — even though he loves them. They used to split their stay between their sister and us, but now they stay only with us.
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They still come out for a week, but that is too long for us. Dear Concerned: Be honest. Unfortunately, we need to shrink your stay with us, down to three nights. Can we academy matchmaking a plan? Dear Amy: I just wanted to tell you how much your advice comforts me, makes me smile, and just generally reassures me. Dear T: Thank you! I am not the heppest of hep cats to use a phrase that really needs to be brought backbut I do scramble to keep up.
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