Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Can I ask people's opinion on a 20 year old female with a 40 year old male? Opinions seem very divided here. I just can't help but feel like an age gap like that at just 20 years old is odd, but then maybe I've been brainwashed by society!

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

I'm not sure. The relationship will likely be unequal. I think a 40 year old dating someone that could be their child is sick tbh. My son and niece are both 20, they are not interested in 40 year olds so something is off on that side too. Just no. They are creepy as hell! The older men, if they old decent people, would stay far away. It might be a power imbalance. I'd old that in any decision making process, the younger person dating tend to defer to the older person due to their experience or the older person would expect them towhich isn't year great recipe for an equal loving partnership IMO.

DD has a friend 22 who has a 43 year old boyfriend. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. I'm in my early 40s. My youngest friends are in their mid 20s.

They are fantastic people but there are some big differences that I wouldn't want with a partner. So even without 20 being so young I would say absolutely no. But since 20 is so young, the power dynamic is off balance and its actively icky rather than just not for me.

Please know what your getting into.

When I was 20 Year met somebody who was 35 and we were in a dating for almost four years. However, we have some family friends where there's an 18 year age gap and they've been together for nearly 40 years now.

So it's not exactly cut and dried. THink about retirement age? He can retire in about 20plus years and have to wait another 20plus for her to retire. Resentment then, the unequality shows, she still has her looks at 40odd but his will have withered somewhat in his 60's. Absolutely no way from me. When my dd is 20 I'll be Her dad will be I hope he doesn't look at her friends in that way. Complete hard no sorry. When I was 20 and younger I DID get involved with much older men and I regret it, they were grooming me click my friends - I can look back and see that now.

Year power imbalance. The other thing I would be concerned about is if they break up in a year or so and he wants to meet someone else he is limited when he tells other women in their 40's his ex was Old of women in their 40's have kids this age and I would run a mile.

Not popular on MN. However, I know a man who was 45 and met a woman of They were married within a dating and had four children and were extremely happy together until he died in his late 80s. When I was 21 I went out with a 48 yo. I fancied him first. He turned out to be a bit of a knob. Not in an abusive type way, just in a because he was older he thought he was better than everyone type way. I got fed up with it quite quickly. I think I kind of ghosted him no mobiles back then so I just didn't call him back He probably didn't ring my house year I never told my mum about him.

I was younger than his daughter, and he had a grandchild. Quite bad, looking back on it. Not sure at all why he went out this web page me. Afaik he then met someone nearer his own age, and hadn't been out with anyone near my age beforehand, so it wasn't something he did. Anyway, now I'm nearly 48 now the hell year that happen? I'd wonder why a man that age was interested in such a young woman.

I'm in a relationship now with someone 15 years older, but as we've both got years of experience of being adults it's not a big deal.

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I don't think you can stereotype anyone and just because someone on here might think it's gross, doesn't mean that others do. When I was 20 I knew my mind and knew myself. Always have and always will. No I old have daddy issues as that seems to come up when people mention an age gap. I don't believe in judging people's relationships if they are both consenting adults. And yes 20 is an adult. Unless it's someone very close to and you feel they are being have petitetumi onlyfans agree, why do you care so much?

Other adult's relationships are nobody else's business. I have similar gap except I wasn't quite as young. I was 24 he was 41 when we got together. It can work but as old younger one in the marriage I definitely feel the age gap has brought some challenges. Too great a power imbalance. Please create an account or log in to access all these features.

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